Wherever you go, there you are
Our Assessments are rarely true: As human beings we are assessment making machines. An assessment is nothing more than a judgement we make based on our own personal experience. These can range from our standards of behaviour – what we find acceptable or not in ourselves and others; to our own defined standards of beauty, hence the saying ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
It’s useful to remember that our assessments belong to us and they are not a world-wide shared truth. It is when we begin treating our assessments as the truth that conflict arises and we find ourselves at odds with ourselves and others. We make quick judgement calls and often don’t have evidence if those calls are true or not.
Think of a situation in which you’ve made an assessment of a situation/ person that you believed to be true to only find out, when presented with ‘evidence’, that you were incorrect. People who refuse to see their assessments as their own interpretations are often angry and come across with arrogance.
Remember, we don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. Let that sink in for a while.